8 lessons about Love from The Forest of Enchantments by Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni
This is a Guest Post By Chirag Malik popularly known as a booksmyrefuge on Instagram.
In our male-dominated society, it becomes hard to see things from the perspective of a woman, her hardships, struggles, motivations, intentions, and feelings. Almost every Holy Scripture is written by holy men so it is very hard to imagine or understand the perspective of a woman by reading them.
The forest of enchantments is a mythological fiction based on one of the most important legends of Hinduism: Ramayana.
But this book is being written from the perspective of the goddess Sita, although she is not
portrayed as a goddess in the entire book. The author a woman herself did a splendid job of
humanizing every trait of the Goddess Sita & Lord Ram.
This book is filled with a whole array of human emotions such as anger, hate, jealousy, greed,
confusion, and dominantly love. It sheds light on the human aspect of Goddess Sita, her choices,and the consequences of her choices. Her role as a sister, wife, mother, and daughter-in-law. Her love for her husband Ram, her interest in gardening, plants, flowers, herbs, and nature. The complexity of the human psyche and their confusion to choose between the right thing and the easy thing is displayed.
So here are 8 love lessons from the most epic and tragic love story of all time which will
strike a chord with your heart.
1. Anything that makes us forget our true selves is a trap, even something we love or define as beautiful.
2. It’s important to speak your mind to the man you’re going to marry. What kind of relationship would you have if you couldn’t do that?
3. Even the strongest intellect may be weakened by love.
4. The more love we distribute more it grows, coming back to us in unexpected sources, and on the contrary, when we demand love, believing it to be our right, it shrivels, leaving only resentment behind.
5. Love is full of contradictions. Sometimes the person you loved weakened you and sometimes he or she made you the strongest person. But under exactly what conditions did these very different changes occur?
Such was love’s magic — the giver gained more than the receiver.
6. It’s not enough to merely love someone. Even if we love them with our entire being, even if we are willing to commit the most heinous sin for their wellbeing. We must understand and respect the values that drive them. We must want what they want, not what we want for them.
7. There are no easy answers, especially when we want to please the one we love. That same love clouds our eyes and doesn’t allow us to see what’s right in front of us.
8. We entangle love with our expectations, a poisoned vine! The stronger the
expectation, the more our anger toward our loved one if he/she doesn’t fulfil it, we
risk losing control over ourselves.
Love makes us back down from protesting because we are afraid of displeasing our loved ones or because we’re afraid that our disagreement is the symptom of a greater disease:
incompatibility of values.
Have you read any of Chitra's books?
If not, I urge you to pick one on your next visit to the book store.